As we know, communication is very important to everyone in this world. People speak, listen and write every day. However, as the community becomes increasingly complex, the basic abilities of communication are not enough. People are trying to develop more effective communication skills so that they can accomodate to the sophisticated society. To have a better understand on this, I would like to use an analogy of the food: we have enough food to consume every day, but we expect to eat and drink better.
Developing effective communication skills is also important to me, because it may help me achieve my goal more easily and successfully. The following is an example of mine, which shows communicating ineffectively leads to an undesirable result.
Once I was debating on an economic issue with my friend. I tried to push my ideas to him and seek for his consent. What I did was just flooding my words to him and I did not listen to him at all. Of course, at last I failed to convince him. I thought my failure was probably because I did not take enough attentions to my friend's response. It would be better if I completely understood his inquiries before I took further actions. However, this is not the end of story. The next time when I met the same friend, he told me that my words-flooding made him a bit uncomfortable that day. Well, you see, my ineffecitve communication even hurt my friend to some extent. I had to appologize for my rudeness, or more precisely, for my improper communication skill.
My experinces tell me it is important to develop effective communication skills so as to do things accurately, effectively and easily, as well as avoiding unnecessary mistakes. Now I have a chance to develop these skills with the guidance of professional instructors. I am expecting more from my joueney of ES2007S.
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Communication is a two way process. Fortunately, your friend told you that he was upset with you for not giving him a chance to talk and you apologized. Or else you might have lost a friendship due to ineffective communication skills.
I got to know this friend of mine last semester. He kept talking about himself without giving me a chance to tell him more about myself. If a person keeps talking and do not allow me to speak, I will think that he/she is a very self-centered person. It reflects badly on the person.
yeah, agree with audrey. It will be better if there are instances where we hear people out... I tend to 'over express' my thoughts also, good thing that you mentioned it. I'm more aware of such issues now..
Its a guy's thing isn't it? LOL
I also agree that communication is not a one way process. However, we often talk a lot and do not pay total attention to what others are saying.I am also guilty of that occasionally. As a result, the other party whom we are talking to might feel offended or hurt. I also hope that this module will help me improve my communication skills.
I understand the situation when yo u are debating with your friends. I believe you are not always like that when you chat with friends. Because you don't need to tell right from wrong when you are chatting. Only when you try to convince someone, you will be too concentrate on your idea, and ingnore the rest.
actually, most of us have the same problem. we cannot apply more than one effective communicatino skills at the same time. For example,in a interview, we are trying hard to articulate ourselves,but ingnore the body language. Or the other way round, some of us pay too much attentions on their voice, eye contact, sitting gesture...but cannot concentrate on answering uestions.
So I think we should not only learn each single effective communication skills, but practice to combine them together. It will benefit us more.
Hi Zhengning, thank you for sharing your experience with us. It demonstrates so clearly the importance of communicating effectively. Also, interesting use of food as an analogy!
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